Are you experiencing relationship pain because of an unhappy breakup, problems in your relationship, or because you haven’t found a life partner and want to start a family?
Relationship pain can color one’s entire outlook on life. However, I truly believe that a healthy relationship is within your reach, so the purpose of this blog is to help you transform your current relationship, or create and sustain the relationship you deserve.
Why I Started Providing Relationship Help to Others
I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive experience in intimate relationships. I am happily married, and because of my personal journey in life, am committed to helping people have more fulfilling relationships.
The relationship pain I experienced in the past is what led me to become a therapist. At some point during my first marriage, I realized that I had married the WRONG person. This was not a happy realization. Nor were the arguments, the dissolution of the marriage, and the disruption that ensued for years afterwards.
You might think that I learned from that mistake, but, on the contrary, I eventually found myself in a relationship once again with, you guessed it, the WRONG person. Even though this relationship wasn’t right for me, I remained stuck in it for three years.
However, with the help of therapy, I became aware of many red flags I had overlooked before getting into that relationship. I also discovered why I had overlooked those red flags and remained in the wrong relationship for so long. Armed with those insights, I became increasingly unwilling to put up with an unhappy relationship, and finally got out.
When I left that relationship, a mentor encouraged me to “interview carefully” before entering another relationship, and I took those words to heart. I decided that no relationship would be better than another wrong relationship, so I proceeded with care. One day, my current husband and I started dating. Somehow, I knew from the start that I was finally with the RIGHT person.
But the story doesn’t end there. After the ‘honeymoon phase” of our relationship, we started to experience some painful conflicts. It was really unbearable since it seemed like we were meant for each other. But we couldn’t figure out how to avoid the conflicts.
So we started seeing a couple’s counselor, and things gradually started to improve. After a while, conflicts rarely happened, and when they did, they were minor and easily repaired. We’ve had an incredible relationship since then, so I consider myself very fortunate.
Help was there when I was struggling with relationships, so I’m happy that I can offer help to those encountering similar problems. I look forward to helping you move away from relationship pain and to staying connected with you through this blog. Hopefully, I can save you time and needless suffering by sharing what I’ve learned personally and professionally about relationships.
By Cynthia Mansur, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
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